3 Tips to Honor Your Body During Exercise
If you’ve been sitting with the question of how you truly relate to exercise, you may have noticed something uncomfortable: that your approach to movement has been shaped more by what you believe you should do than by what your body is actually asking for.
That recognition is important and it’s also the beginning of consciously shifting from a mental orientation toward a more body-honoring one. However, that shift doesn’t happen all at once. It’s a practice that must be continually revisited. And like most practices, it starts with small deliberate acts. Here are three ways to begin:
1. Check In With your body before, During, and after your workout
Most of us decide what kind of exercise we’re going to do before we’ve consulted the ultimate authority on what’s best for us: our bodies.
Before you begin, take a moment to pause and notice. What sensations are present? How are your energy levels – not the story you’re telling yourself about your energy, but the actual felt sense of it? How are you feeling emotionally? Does the movement you’ve planned feel genuinely appealing, or would something else feel better?
“The goal isn’t to talk yourself out of exercising. It’s to make space for your body’s intelligence to participate in the decision.”
You may notice inner resistance, indicating that modifying your original plan might be beneficial. You may find your body is eager to move in a way you hadn’t initially considered. Either way, you’re beginning to build a different kind of relationship with exercise, one that includes your body rather than bypassing her wisdom.
Once you’re moving, see if you can stay present with your experience rather than outside of it. If you typically listen to music or a podcast or tend to lose yourself in thought while working out, this can be more difficult than it sounds. There’s a good chance your body is used to moving on autopilot. How much of your attention is actually in your body versus orbiting above what’s occurring on the felt, visceral level?
As you move, keep listening. How is your breathing? Are you overexerting or not moving to your full capacity? When you experience pain, do you slow down or override? Is there an impulse to move differently than you had planned? Even if you don’t follow that impulse, it’s valuable information.
After you finish, check in one final time. Do you feel energized or depleted? Nourished or drained? To what extent were you present with your body’s experience? What, if anything, would you do differently?
Over time these check-ins will strengthen your body awareness in ways that extend well beyond your movement practice.
2. Let Your Movement Practice Evolve
There’s a reason we’re drawn to exercise routines. They’re easy to track and optimize and they give us a sense of control. But most exercise programs were designed with men’s biology in mind. Men’s hormones follow a consistent daily rhythm, meaning their energy and capacity for exercise stays relatively consistent day to day.
Women’s bodies do not operate the same way.
“Our bodies move through natural fluctuations in energy, metabolism, and hormonal activity throughout the month and across the span of our lives.
What serves you during one phase of your cycle may feel depleting during another. What felt right in your twenties may not be what your body needs now. Trying to maintain a rigid, unchanging routine given this natural variability isn’t discipline, but rather a dedication to override.
If you’re in your reproductive years, aligning the type and intensity of your movement to where you are in your cycle can be profoundly supportive. This might look like more vigorous, energetic movement during your follicular and ovulatory phases, and slower, more restorative movement in the days leading up to and during menstruation. This could be a dynamic yoga practice one week and leisurely walks the next. High-intensity intervals when your body has the energy for it, and genuine rest when she doesn’t.
And if your cycle is irregular or you’re in perimenopause or beyond, the invitation is the same: to listen for what your body needs now, rather than what worked before, to consult your own knowing before following what an external program or instructor tells you should work.
What works for your body today may not work next month. That isn’t a sign that your body is inconsistent, but rather that her needs ebb and flow throughout your lifetime. And honoring those needs means learning to attune to what’s right for you at any given moment.
3. Trust The Way your body naturally wants to move
Your body knows how she wants to move. All you have to do is listen.
Just as your body communicates when she needs food or rest, she also signals what kinds of movement feel good and which ones don’t. The challenge is that most of us have spent years, sometimes decades, overriding those signals in favor of what we believe we should be doing. Learning to hear the body again takes practice and patience.
If you notice that you often feel disconnected from your body’s cues, or that you can’t yet tell the difference between what your body needs and what your mind desires, this knowledge is simply a starting point upon which to build.
“Body awareness is a skill that takes time to develop and deepen.”
Somatic healing can offer a dedicated space for developing this awareness. By learning to track sensations, such as impulses, urges, or the subtle pull toward one kind of exercise over another, you build the capacity to let your body lead.
Somatic healing also creates room for unstructured, non-choreographed movement to arise. This might look like the stretch your arms want to make after you’ve been sitting too long or the way your body wants to curl inward when you feel sleepy. These seemingly small instincts are how your body expresses her innate intelligence.
Most of us are accustomed to permitting ourselves to move only in routine socially acceptable ways, and anything outside of that tends to get suppressed whether we realize it or not. But the more you practice honoring your body’s natural inclinations, the stronger your relationship with her becomes. And the more equipped you are to choose movement that genuinely sustains you.
Learning to honor your body during exercise is less about getting it right every time and more about returning to her again and again, each time with a little more curiosity and a little less override. And that, more than any routine or program, is what a body-honoring practice actually looks like.
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